10 values questions for deeper conversations
Explore honesty, kindness, change and familiar choices. These questions help friends and couples hear each other’s reasons without looking for a correct answer.
Compare your choices in this quiz
How to use these questions
You do not have to answer everything at once. Choose independently, then share a reason or a memory. Skip anything that feels uncomfortable, and let different answers be different.
10 questions to get you talking
Something wonderful happens.
Which would you choose?
Someone you love had a hard day.
Which would you choose?
How do you like to stay in touch?
Which would you choose?
Celebrating a special date?
Which would you choose?
When we disagree?
Which would you choose?
What makes a gift special?
Which would you choose?
A new opportunity comes along.
Which would you choose?
Spending time together?
Which would you choose?
How do you show you care?
Which would you choose?
Plans change at the last minute.
Which would you choose?
Take the conversation a little further
- Has an experience changed what you value recently?
- What deserves respect even when we disagree?
- What memory explains one of your choices?
Values questions
Matching on 7 out of 10 questions gives you 70%. Pick an answer that surprised you and ask what made your partner choose it.
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Before you start
- Can we do this long-distance?
- Read the questions together on a call, or try the quiz by link. One person answers first and sends an invitation; the other can answer later.
- Do we need an account?
- You can start the quiz with a nickname, without signing up. Sign in if you want to save results to your account and open them on another device.
- Does a low compatibility score mean a bad relationship?
- The score is the percentage of matching choices in these questions. It is not a personality assessment or a prediction of your relationship. Use a different answer to ask what feels comfortable for each of you.