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10 communication style questions · Texting, calls and replies

Prefer a call or a text? Talk about replying, making plans and listening, and compare how you like to stay in touch with a friend or partner.

Compare your choices in this quiz

How to use these questions

You do not have to answer everything at once. Choose independently, then share a reason or a memory. Skip anything that feels uncomfortable, and let different answers be different.

10 questions to get you talking

  1. Reply speed?

    Which would you choose?

    • Right away
    • When I have time
  2. Call or text?

    Which would you choose?

    • A call
    • A text
  3. Message style?

    Which would you choose?

    • Many short ones
    • One long one
  4. Emoji?

    Which would you choose?

    • In every sentence
    • Just a few
  5. How many “haha”s?

    Which would you choose?

    • The more the merrier
    • Two or three
  6. Read but did not reply?

    Which would you choose?

    • Always follow up
    • Let it slide
  7. A surprise call?

    Which would you choose?

    • Pick up
    • Text to ask what is up
  8. Voice messages?

    Which would you choose?

    • Handy
    • I prefer text
  9. Video calls?

    Which would you choose?

    • Often
    • Special occasions
  10. Who starts the chat?

    Which would you choose?

    • Me
    • I wait for them

Take the conversation a little further

  • How would you like to say that you are too busy to reply?
  • What kind of response helps when you share a worry?
  • When and how would you like to clear up a misunderstanding?

Communication style questions

Matching on 7 out of 10 questions gives you 70%. Pick an answer that surprised you and ask what made your partner choose it.

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Can we do this long-distance?
Read the questions together on a call, or try the quiz by link. One person answers first and sends an invitation; the other can answer later.
Do we need an account?
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Does a low compatibility score mean a bad relationship?
The score is the percentage of matching choices in these questions. It is not a personality assessment or a prediction of your relationship. Use a different answer to ask what feels comfortable for each of you.