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10 daily routine questions for friends and couples

Compare sleep, tidiness and downtime preferences before spending more time together. Talk about the everyday habits that help each of you feel comfortable.

Compare your choices in this quiz

How to use these questions

You do not have to answer everything at once. Choose independently, then share a reason or a memory. Skip anything that feels uncomfortable, and let different answers be different.

10 questions to get you talking

  1. When do you feel most yourself?

    Which would you choose?

    • A fresh, quiet morning
    • A slow, peaceful night
  2. Your tidying style?

    Which would you choose?

    • A little every day
    • One big tidy-up
  3. A weekend with no plans?

    Which would you choose?

    • Recharge at home
    • Go out for a change of scene
  4. A pile of notifications?

    Which would you choose?

    • Read and clear them now
    • Check them when I need to
  5. Your ideal downtime?

    Which would you choose?

    • With music or a video
    • Lovely, complete quiet
  6. You spot something you love.

    Which would you choose?

    • Think about it for a few days
    • Get it while the feeling is fresh
  7. Where do you keep your notes?

    Which would you choose?

    • A handwritten notebook
    • My always-handy phone
  8. Starting a new hobby?

    Which would you choose?

    • Go deep into one thing
    • Try a little bit of everything
  9. Arriving at a friend’s home?

    Which would you choose?

    • A little early
    • Right on time
  10. A quiet evening in?

    Which would you choose?

    • Rewatch an old favorite
    • Discover something new

Take the conversation a little further

  • What daily boundary matters when sharing a space?
  • How can we respect each other’s quiet time?
  • What small habit could we try together this week?

Daily routine questions

Matching on 7 out of 10 questions gives you 70%. Pick an answer that surprised you and ask what made your partner choose it.

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Can we do this long-distance?
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Does a low compatibility score mean a bad relationship?
The score is the percentage of matching choices in these questions. It is not a personality assessment or a prediction of your relationship. Use a different answer to ask what feels comfortable for each of you.